Building Stability on My Own Terms: Lauren’s Story
For many people experiencing housing instability, success is not a simple “before and after.” Stability often unfolds slowly, built step by step through opportunity, support, and persistence.
Lauren Kush’s story reflects that reality. As St. Joseph Center celebrates 50 years of impact, we are honored to share her reflections on homelessness and the slow, deliberate work of building stability and meaning on her own terms.
A former St. Joseph Center client and CodeTalk graduate, Lauren was honored at our annual Gala with the H.O.M.E. (Helping Others Move Effectively) Award, recognizing her extraordinary resilience and personal achievement.
Success Does Not Erase What Came Before
“Housing instability doesn’t disappear just because success shows up.”
When people hear a “success story,” they often imagine a fairy tale ending: before and after, struggle and stability. But housing instability doesn’t work like that. Being unhoused doesn’t end the moment you land a job, learn a new skill, or connect with resources. It stays with you, quietly and persistently, even years later. It can feel like a visible mark you carry, whether you want to or not, no matter your title or achievements.
When Survival Becomes Your Baseline
When I was living without stable housing, survival shaped everything. Where do I park tonight? Will I be moved along? Can I rest without being alert? That constant vigilance doesn’t simply turn off once circumstances improve. Even now, safety and stability aren’t assumptions. They are things I actively notice, protect, and sometimes still worry about losing.
What the Body Remembers
There’s a physical and mental toll people don’t talk about enough. Poor sleep. Chronic stress. Tension you carry in your body long after the danger has passed. Your nervous system learns to stay ready. Success doesn’t automatically teach it how to relax. Unfortunately, society is often not equipped with the empathy and understanding recovery actually requires.
Learning What Home Actually Means
Emotionally, it changes how you define “home.” Home stops being just an address or a physical place. It becomes quiet. A door that locks. A place where nothing bad is about to happen. It becomes the ability to focus, to plan beyond tomorrow, and to sit still without paralyzing fear. That’s something I had to learn.
“Home stops being just an address or a physical place. It becomes quiet. A door that locks. A place where nothing bad is about to happen.”
A Doorway Beyond Survival
Learning to code through CodeTalk didn’t just give me technical skills. It gave me access to safety, time, and possibility. It helped me think beyond survival and see myself as someone who could build, solve problems, and belong in spaces I once felt shut out of. That mattered more than I can easily explain.
CodeTalk is St. Joseph Center’s web technology vocational program offering hands-on training, professional development, and support for low-income, underemployed, and underserved women building pathways into the technology field.
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“Learning to code didn’t just give me technical skills. It gave me access to safety, time, and possibility.”
Stability as an Ongoing Practice
I’m proud of where I am now. But I don’t believe in erasing the past to make the present more palatable. Housing instability leaves marks, and acknowledging that doesn’t diminish success. It makes it honest. Stability isn’t just a milestone you reach. For many of us, it’s something we continue to practice, protect, and slowly learn to trust.
“Stability isn’t just a milestone you reach. For many of us, it’s something we continue to practice, protect, and learn to trust.”
If you are reading this while living with uncertainty around housing, work, or what comes next, know that progress does not have to be linear. It also does not have to happen alone. Support is out there.
And that’s okay.
